If someone had told me 10 years ago that I'd be a single mum now, my reaction would have been "No way, get fucked", simply because to me back then, I would have thought that I couldn't handle it. From the outside in, depending on your situation and where' you're at in life, we probably all look at the people around us and think "Fuck, I don't know how they do it". I personally have people say it to me all the time, but for me, it's just life. I've taken what has been thrown at me, embraced it and go on with it because that's the only choice that I had.
I admit, there are moments that I have that I curl into a ball on my bed and either cry or stare at the wall, thinking that life sometimes just gets way too hard for me to handle, but there's a reason we grow out of the fetal position once we're born - because we're growing. Tough times create tough people, and after the shit I've been through over the last 10 years, I sometimes find it very difficult to be empathetic or sympathetic, and I'm trying to work on that.
Once upon a time I used to turn to prescription pills to numb out how tough life was, but that's because I had absolutely no coping strategies and I guess no sense of reality. During that time I was living with my folks, I only had debt because I was an irresponsible teenager who wouldn't listen to anyone and thought the bills would pay themselves and while others were are university and building their careers, I was lying in bed wishing the days away because the hard that for me, my hard was getting out of bed and living life. I had no motivation, no drive, no care and I let myself become the victim of my circumstances. Fuck that.
If I wanted to, I could sit and feel sorry for myself because of my current circumstances, fuck, even my past circumstances if I was really running low on excuses to give up, but every single day I choose to soldier on and be the strongest motherffucker that I can be, because life is way more enjoyable when you pat yourself on the back for overcoming such shitty moments than letting them stop you from moving on.
Are you the type of person who looks at others and wonder "How do they do it?", or are you the type of person that thinks "Shut the fuck up, my life is way harder". What you need to remember is that your hard, is completely different to someone elses hard. That same person you're whinging about is probably sitting there giving you full credit for what you do every day, while remaining completely humble about their life, even when they're struggling.
The point that I'm trying to make is that your hard will be determined by whether you choose to embrace your situation, or let it rule you. Becoming a victim of your own circumstances will stunt your growth and when you've got people like Oprah who was raped as a young girl, fired from her job and yet is now one of the most powerful women in the world or J.K Rowling who became a single mum, was rejected numerous times by publishers and then went on to write Harry Potter, taking a leaf out of their books doesn't seem like such a silly idea.
So let's stop judging and comparing, and let's all start encouraging and high fiving each other for the struggles we overcome, the strength we all share and for fucks sake, give yourself a hi five for where you're at in life and for what you've overcome, because we all know that we don't do that enough!